If you think about it, your partner, your gynecologist and your smear nurse have probably got more idea what your vagina looks like than you do. But it’s amazingly empowering to reclaim your body and connect with yourself a little bit better.
Why does it matter?
It’s a sad fact that young people aren’t seeking medical help for gynaecological issues because they’re too embarrassed about talking about their vaginas, let alone showing them to their doctors. This has profound implications on their sexual, physical and psychological health.
There’s a lot of rubbish written about vaginas which leaves people questioning the truth. Like “is my vagina smelly?” Or “is female sexual pleasure weird or dirty”? And then there are misconceptions about what the ideal pussy looks like (thanks for that porn). But the truth is, vaginas are fabulous and should be celebrated.
There are lots of reasons why everyone needs to embrace their physical and sexual bodies.
First of all, only you know what makes you feel good. The more you touch yourself and familiarize yourself with the feelings and sensations that give you pleasure, the better your sex life will be. This is golden information to pass onto your partner or to use yourself when you want to masturbate.
Just like penises, vaginas come in all shapes and sizes. There’s no right or wrong, just different. So get to know yours and learn to appreciate it for all its wonders.
Start by getting to know some of the terminology. Our ‘Anatomy 101’ guide will help you identify your clitoris, labia, vaginal opening, urethra and pubic mount. Make it a practical lesson. Find somewhere private, squat or lay down on your back, and hold a hand mirror up to your vagina. By getting a good idea of how your vulva and vagina look normally, you’ll also be more aware of any changes if, for example, you have unusual discharge or an STI. This is valuable information for your GP or gynae.
The better you know your vagina, the easier it will be to insert and remove a period cup. Check out our ‘How to use’ article.
No lesson would be complete without some hands-on practice. Yes, masturbation. Wash your hands, spread your legs and let your fingers (or toys) get to work. There’s absolutely nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. It’s all completely natural – and fun – and you’ll feel much more in tune with yourself afterwards. There are no rules, so try different things until you find your personal pleasure zones.
